Choose A Better Relationship

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Romans 12:2

When I was single I would often take evaluation over my life to see what personal dating relationships were healthy and what relationships were toxic.

There was nothing wrong with taking note of these relationships. However, my thought about keeping some of the toxic relationships around was WRONG thinking.

In the past, my ignorance to God’s will for my life helped my choices to go down the wrong roads relatively easy. Reacting on my own emotions and my own understanding about things, instead of listening and finding out what God had to say about me and those relationships.

I spent precious time and wasted years going around in the same cycle, until one day I made the choice to do something different from what I had been used to doing. I can still remember the day I made this decision, because it was the day that changed my life forever and put me on a whole different path.

I cut off all the old relationships that were no good for me – even some of the relationships, that were painful for me to cut loose and had decided in my mind that even if I had to face one of the things I feared – being alone, that I would do what I knew was right for me to do.

The thing about it all was that even during my times of bad relationship choices, I could hear the still quiet voice of God, advising me the opposite of the choices I would make. However, I would continually ignore that voice and make the choices that would give me immediate gratification. Choices that while, providing immediate gratification, would leave me more messed up in the end, than if I would have just chosen to do what I was supposed to do in the beginning.

The day I chose to turn my life around, I had gotten in one of the biggest fights ever, with a guy that I had been seeing off and on for 2 ½ years.  A relationship, that had never been going anywhere, but a relationship that folks often say “just could not be left alone.”

I remember walking away that day in the Target parking lot and choosing to never look back – despite how painful it would be for me.

The funny thing about all of this is I can recall being at a crossroads in my life at that point and I had FINALLY chosen to go down the right path. It was if, God was standing there waiting for me to make the right choice and I had finally taken His hand and began my journey with Him.

And somehow, the fears I had of being alone, quickly went away, because literally– immediately, after I made that choice, I met the man who would become my husband 6 months later.

Now, everyone’s journey is different. However, I just could not help but to take notice of what was happening in my life supernaturally at that time.

There truly is a way that always seems right to man, but the end result of it is destruction.

If you have been struggling with making wrong relationship choices and you know the same choices have you repeating a cycle of failure – let this be the year, that you truly hear the voice of God and choose something opposite of what you’ve been doing.

There is an on-going battle in the supernatural to get us to choose a side. I cringe to think what would be waiting for me, if I had not chosen God that day.

Sometimes, even the most humanly intelligent person will continually set themselves up for failure in an area of their life, because they allow fear to keep them bound and from the true blessings that God really has for their life.

I thank God, that His thinking is nothing like ours and that His understanding far surpasses ours.

This year take the blinders off – ask God to help you make the right choices for your life. Trust and believe in Him and watch how your life transforms.

Renew your mind, change your life.

Blessings,